Mid-Week Coffee Share: Publication Blues and Some Thoughts on Racism

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  1. Random advice by a random stranger (if I may): I’d suggest not reading the comments/reviews of your story. When there is a bad one – and there will be eventually* – it’ll most likely stick with you. I know people who can quote particularly hurtful reviews from ages ago while barely remembering the words of any of the good ones. That’s just how the human brain seems to work. Maybe ask a friend of yours to collect the nice comments and send them to you when you need a boost?
    *People dislike books for the weirdest of reasons. Pick your favourite book and read a 1-star review on goodreads.com. That might also help with boosting your confidence 🙂

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    1. Thanks, that’s pretty good advice, actually. The thing is, I’m not afraid of negative reviews by others, and touch wood I haven’t got one yet. It’s just that I’m assuming that I was not good enough. It’s me that’s doing the negative talking, not anybody else. But it’s almost gone now. And if I ever feel doubtful, I just read the good comments and be grateful that some people liked my story.

      Anyways, thanks for reading! 🙂


  2. “However, I didn’t write anything about Women’s Day myself, even though I’m always having a heated debate on feminism with imaginary people in my mind. With all the voices out there, echoing what I felt or giving me something new to learn, I felt like I needn’t add anything to it.”

    I feel like I could have written that! I had actually written a post during the same day, but decided against publishing it because I thought it would be too inflammatory from someone who’s not an activist. But as I’ve come to learn since then, in the course of research I’ve been doing on intersectional feminism, our voices – voices of women of colour – not only matter, they are absolutely essential.

    My blog is an outlet to vent and just talk about what’s on my mind in a medium that feels more natural than talking – hehe. It’s okay to not be an expert, for even experts have much to learn.

    I’m so happy to hear that your submission is getting great reviews. I do that to my own writing as well. I had written a story and revisited it months later only to decide that it sucked and I need to scrap it completely. We can be our own worst critics.

    Sorry, my comment is all over the place. But about there not being racism in India, I agree. But I do think that we Indians do place a preference on fair skin over darker. That’s been my experience as an Indian living in the west. I’d be interested to know if that aligns with your own experience. What part of India are you from? Maybe it’s different there! 🙂

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    1. Agreee with everything you said. As a kid, i did see people around me make fun of dark people and Io think I may have been one of them too at some point in life, but thankfully, I’ve never been told that my skin needs to be fairer and now that I’m old enough to think for myself, I don’t even care. Fair & Lovely advertisements make me very angry. Not to mention all the Fair & Handsome ads. India has a far way to go when it comes to one’s skin color. I think having leads in movies (both male and female) with dark. I think I was lucky to have a family that never made me feel bad about my skin or my body. 🙂

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    2. Unfortunately, I’ve been told to use Fair & Lovely. I did that one time, but never again. There was so much wrong with my body, but I fought against anybody (well, not literally) who said a thing about me being “dark.” It’s a colonialist hang-up we gotta get over.

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    3. We find things wrong with our body only when society thinks they’re undesirable. As long as you don’t care about what others say, you’ll have the perfect body. Other’s opinion of your body doesn’t matter. What matters is whether you’re happy with it or not. We’ve got to tell people to love themselves as they are.

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